Leeds couple Tanya Marum and Ashley Marum, both 32, have defended their decision to vet applicants to their swingers club for attractiveness. The pair, who married in 2019, run events company Pineapple Lounge and screen potential members online. They said the policy ensures a positive experience for all attendees.
The couple began swinging shortly after their wedding to allow Tanya to explore her bisexuality. They initially played with women at existing clubs before branching out into couples, describing the scene as predominantly couple-based. They have since appeared on Channel 4's Open House: The Great Sex Experiment.
Ashley claims swinging has strengthened trust in their relationship. Their one golden rule is never to play with another couple alone, to avoid becoming a "play thing". "We want to do our own thing and have our own experience and our own fun," he said.
Friends are said to be supportive, with some of Ashley's friends expressing jealousy and wishing their partners were open to the lifestyle. The couple now host bi-monthly club nights and say they have not paid for club entry in two years due to their reputation.
Tanya, who hosts a podcast called Pineapple Lounge, aims to educate people about the unwritten rules of swinging. However, she cautioned that the lifestyle is not a solution for relationship problems, saying it can strengthen an existing strong foundation but not fix cracks.
