A 21-year-old woman has been left questioning her relationship after her partner told her he will always love his first child more than any future children they may have together. The man, aged 27, already has a child from a previous relationship.
Writing anonymously on Netmums' Am I Being Unreasonable forum, she said: 'I am thinking of breaking up with my partner because he said that he'd always love his first child more than any other children that will follow.' She added that she was already struggling with the fact that her first child would not be his first.
Her partner justified his view by saying that his first child was the first he had ever raised and that experiencing so many firsts with him made it normal to love him more. He attempted to reassure her that their first child together would be 'special', but she remained unconvinced, fearing potential favouritism.
Despite the issue, she described him as a good partner who treats her 'very well' and is 'patient and understanding'. However, she said the possibility of his comment becoming a reality made her hesitant to have children with him.
Other parents responding to her post offered reassurance. One said: 'I think it was a slightly insensitive thing for him to have said but I doubt that any future children would be any less loved.' Another shared that their partner had expressed similar feelings but later loved all children equally after the second was born.
