A 24-year-old woman has shared her relationship dilemma online after revealing that her boyfriend of 18 months frequently goes missing for days at a time, leaving her feeling stressed and anxious. She turned to Reddit's relationships forum for advice, admitting she feels guilty about wanting more communication from him.
In her post, she described the relationship as generally positive, with the couple even discussing a future together. However, she expressed concern over her partner's habit of vanishing without contact at least once a month. When he returns, he offers excuses such as poor signal, running out of data, work commitments, or illness, but she finds these explanations unconvincing.
She noted that during his absences, she tries to reach him via calls, texts, and social media, but gets no response. Upon his return, he apologises and makes up for it by spending quality time and showering her with gifts. Despite this, she admitted the pattern has become stressful and has even led to her covering his share of the rent for several months, with promised repayments yet to materialise.
Commenters on the post were quick to suggest that the behaviour could indicate infidelity, with one user sharing a similar experience and another stating it was a 'huge red flag'. The woman responded that while she had considered the possibility, her boyfriend had previously insisted he would end the relationship rather than cheat.
Others advised that basic communication is essential in a relationship, especially if children are involved in the future. The woman expressed her love for her partner and her desire to salvage the relationship, but admitted she is unsure how to address the issue without placing blame.
