A married couple who encourage each other to sleep with others have visited more than 20 countries for their 'sexploits'. Cate Wander, 37, and her husband Darren, 47, a salesman, met 15 years ago in Sydney, Australia and initially started dating as a monogamous couple.
Five years into the relationship, the pair decided to open up about their different desires, ranging from career aspirations to sexual fantasies. They soon decided to identify as 'ethically non-monogamous', meaning they communicate before having sex with others outside their marriage. The adventurous couple became swingers and have not looked back since.
Cate and Darren enjoyed the 'openness' of the lifestyle so much that they opened up their marriage. They have since travelled the world for their romps with other men and women, visiting places such as Thailand, Japan, France, Singapore, Malaysia, the US and the UK. The pair hopes to 'break the stigma' surrounding non-monogamy and swinging.
Cate, a podcaster from Queensland, Australia, said: 'The first time I swung I was terrified. There is a really negative stigma surrounding the lifestyle. I thought a hairy-chested dude wearing a gold chain with a beer belly was going to come out. It was nothing like that at all. There are people from all walks of life, it’s like any other bar except there are playrooms.'
Cate left her high-flying corporate career as a global director of operations in 2019 and openly came out as a swinger after hiding it due to a morality clause in her work contract. Darren works in sales but said his company has been accepting of his alternative lifestyle. The couple had their first swinging experience in a club in Sydney, Australia, and were initially apprehensive.
They have since relocated to the Netherlands and have had sex with other people all over the world, regularly visiting nudist resorts for their romps. Darren added: 'When we first swung I was scared and excited, but the feeling of excitement overruled. We have guidelines, for example, we won't take one for the team. If one of us isn't interested, we both aren't interested. We come first and each have the veto power to leave a situation or a couple if one of us doesn't wish to continue.'
