Readers have responded to Polly Hudson's recent article criticising handshakes, with a range of opinions on the value of physical greetings. Priscilla Packer, writing from France, argues that hand contact is an open gesture of trust and humanity. She encourages leaving one's comfort zone to connect with strangers, suggesting that avoiding handshakes due to hygiene concerns could deprive people of enriching relationships. She advises carrying hand sanitiser discreetly.
Defending the Handshake
James Tuson from Hertford agrees that a handshake is a simple, respectful greeting that shows appreciation, unlike fist or elbow bumps. He notes that many women prefer handshakes over other greetings in work and social settings, and that initial contact can define a relationship.
Neil James, based in Spain, criticises Hudson's aversion to physical contact, pointing out that kissing and hugging are common across Europe. He highlights that in Germany, multiple handshakes are the norm, and his family enjoys affectionate greetings with friends and teachers.
Alternative Perspectives
Robert Gallimore from Somerset shares a tradition among Welsh Guards officers: if you know someone well, a handshake is unnecessary; if you don't, why shake hands? He recalls a WWII veteran calling handshaking a 'ghastly American custom'.
Martin J Masterman-Lister from Southampton proposed a contactless handshake during Covid-19, involving pinching fingers above the head, but it hasn't caught on. Lynne Jones from Devon welcomes the post-tennis racket tap as a hygienic alternative to sweaty handshakes.
Cultural Alternatives
Ratilal Chauhan from Birmingham suggests adopting the Indian namaste greeting, which is contactless and historically showed no weapons. Jim Sanders from Sweden proposes the Japanese bow, though he wonders if it might seem too deferential, even when reciprocated.
The debate highlights varied views on physical greetings, from trust-building to hygiene concerns, with cultural practices offering potential solutions.
