In Los Angeles, Samantha Wynn Greenstone, 38, and Jacob Hoff, 31, have built a relationship that challenges traditional expectations. She is straight, he is gay, and they are married with a child on the way. The couple met in 2015 at a callback for the musical Fiddler on the Roof, bonding over a shared sense of humour and spending their first day talking until 4am.
Their friendship deepened over 18 months, but it was after a session with an energy healer that Samantha began to question her feelings. The healer commented on a 'spiritual umbilical cord' between them, prompting Samantha to message Jacob asking if he had feelings beyond friendship. After discussing concerns about mismatched sexual orientations and the risk of ruining their friendship, they decided to pursue a romantic relationship.
Jacob is adamant that his sexuality remains unchanged. 'It hasn't changed because Samantha is my partner,' he said, rejecting suggestions that he should label himself as bisexual or pansexual. The couple are monogamous and have denied any deception or polyamory in their marriage. When asked about their sex life, they are private, though Jacob has described his attraction to Samantha as 'an attraction to who she is' rather than a lustful one.
The pair describe each other as soulmates. Samantha noted that Jacob embodies all the qualities she values, including a love of musical theatre, making his sexual orientation seem a minor concern. Jacob acknowledged the inconvenience but said, 'Samantha is the package that my soulmate came in.' They have found acceptance from friends in secure relationships, while those who were single or unlucky in love have sometimes reacted negatively.
