Men have revealed that Kegels during sex are one of the most memorable moves a woman can perform, with some claiming the experience becomes up to 300 per cent better. Beyond impressing partners, the exercise offers health benefits for women, including improved bladder control and core strength.
What men say about Kegels
When men were asked to share something a woman did in bed that they still think about, Kegels were among the most popular responses. A Reddit user known as u/SgtHaddix said: “Kegels. Nothing quite like a 10/10 suddenly upping her game by 300 per cent while she’s on top.”
Another user, u/aupperk24, claimed Kegels gave his wife all the power in bed: “It’s honestly unfair, like she has the power to finish me off in like 10 seconds whenever she wants to.”
u/TheParmesan described a memorable experience: “One of my best experiences was a partner hitting me with kegels in perfect sync while she was getting in from behind. One of those ‘WHOA’ moments I think back on a lot.”
Understanding Kegels and their benefits
Kegels are an exercise that men and women can do to strengthen the pelvic floor. The action involves tightening and relaxing the pelvic floor muscles, which sit at the base of the pelvis. For women, this helps keep the bladder, uterus, vagina, and bowel in the right place.
Strong pelvic floor muscles can also boost core strength and stability, improve bladder and bowel control, and enhance sexual function.
How to do pelvic floor exercises
According to NHS Inform, you should start in a comfortable position, such as sitting or lying down with your knees slightly apart. Close the back passage as if trying to stop passing wind, but avoid clenching the buttocks. Then squeeze the vaginal muscles up and in, without pulling the stomach in or lifting the shoulders, eyebrows, or toes.
Do a combination of long and short squeezes. For long squeezes, hold the muscles tight for around 10 seconds, then relax fully and breathe normally for about five seconds. Aim for 10 repetitions with full relaxation between. Short squeezes involve squeezing the pelvic muscles tight for one second, then relaxing fully, aiming for 10 contractions.
The NHS recommends completing 10 long squeezes and 10 short squeezes three times per day. It may take several weeks to see improvement, so don’t be put off if results are not immediate.
Why Kegels excite men
Bryony Lees, the in-house sex and relationship expert at Sextoys.co.uk, told Metro that Kegels during sex can excite men because the contractions show the person performing them is present and attentive. “It’s a small nod to say that you are enjoying it, without actually having to say anything,” she said.
The action also shifts the power dynamic, giving the woman more control. “This can be exciting and new to the couple, and a lot of people enjoy spontaneity. Just like introducing a new toy or trying a new sex position, this act can be so much fun,” Lees added. “Some men also really just enjoy feeling the pressure when the other person is squeezing. It’s a new sensation that can be felt without the use of toys.”
Lees advises communication is key: “Always tell your partner what feels good and what doesn’t. If you love the feeling of your partner exercising Kegels during sex, tell them! Knowing they are making you feel good will, in turn, make them feel good too.”
