Daily Star's agony aunt Jane O'Gorman is available daily to help readers with their problems, offering straightforward and sound advice on issues ranging from bedroom confessions to self-confidence and drug use. Over the years, she has assisted thousands of readers and continues to do so.
Readers seeking help can write to Just Jane, Daily Star, One Canada Square, London, E145AP, or email jane.ogorman@reachplc.com. Jane cannot respond to individual letters, and not all problems will be published.
Flatmate's Dirty Habits
A reader complained that her flatmate has sex with her boyfriend in the reader's bed, leaving mess and used condoms. The flatmate, who is between jobs and financed by rich parents, argues it's unfair because the reader has the biggest room and best bed, despite the reader paying more rent and buying the bed herself.
Jane advises the reader to tell the flatmate in no uncertain terms not to cross the threshold again. She suggests boil washing the bedlinen, scrubbing the room, and asking the landlord to fit a lock. If that's not possible, Jane questions whether the reader should consider moving to a place where she can be happy and trust those around her.
Family Estrangement and Funeral
Another reader shared that her brother and sister ran away when their dad got ill, leaving her to find carers, do shopping, and hold his hand. The siblings never visited but sobbed at the funeral in July. The reader paid for everything as their dad was poverty stricken, yet her brother asked for his watch, which she threw at him. Now her sister has texted suggesting coffee, which the reader suspects is to find out if their dad left cash.
Jane says the reader did her best for her late father, being by his side and putting on a respectful funeral. She advises that if the reader isn't ready to see her sister, she should text back informing her that their dad didn't leave a penny and ask if she would contribute to funeral expenses. Jane hopes they resolve their issues but suggests the reader take time out and put her own needs first.
Ex-Boyfriend's Cruel Words
A third reader is upset that her ex-boyfriend is bad-mouthing her, calling her a control freak and useless in bed, despite their mutual agreement to stay friends and not be nasty. She feels betrayed and let down.
Jane suggests the ex-boyfriend is still hurting and cares, otherwise he wouldn't mention her. His rudeness is his way of showing the world he's fine. Jane advises the reader not to rise to the bait, ignore him, turn the other cheek, and retain her dignity.
