Agony aunt Jane O'Gorman has responded to two readers' dilemmas, offering advice on dealing with a lying ex and managing expectations on social media.
Ex's Bragging About Sexual History
A reader wrote that her ex-boyfriend, who was a virgin when they met, is now bragging to mutual friends about having had between 15 and 20 lovers. She said she taught him everything about sex during their four-year relationship and knows he is lying.
Jane advised the reader to ignore her ex's claims, saying he is likely hurting and humiliated. She suggested telling friends not to pass on gossip and unfriending him on social media if necessary.
Advice on Moving On
Jane reminded the reader that the relationship is over and that her ex's fragile ego is no longer her concern. She encouraged her to focus on her new relationship instead.
Neediness Over Social Media Replies
Another reader admitted getting upset when people don't respond instantly to her posts, even sending a stinging message to a friend who was in a job interview. Jane advised apologising and being more realistic about others' availability.
She stressed that not everything is about the reader and that change is necessary for the relationship to recover.
