A woman has written to Coleen Nolan seeking advice about her boyfriend's female best friend, who she believes is in love with him. The reader, who has been dating her boyfriend for a few months, explains that the friend behaves as if she is the girlfriend—buying gifts, sending sentimental cards, and constantly offering help. The boyfriend admitted that the friend had previously wanted a romantic relationship but he only wanted friendship. The reader feels uncomfortable and thinks her boyfriend enjoys the attention.
Coleen's Advice: Trust and Communication
Coleen Nolan advises that the boyfriend likely knows the friend has feelings, which may be an ego boost. However, since he was honest and made it clear they are just friends, there is little to worry about. She suggests talking to him about feelings without making a big issue, and also getting to know the friend better to ease fears. Coleen emphasizes that insecurities should not drive the relationship and that trust is key. She notes that the dynamic will shift as the relationship progresses.
