Facesitting, also known as queening, has emerged as a highly popular sex position among women, with ethical porn site Sssh.com reporting it as its most requested intimate act. The site, which boasts a 76% female audience, has seen a surge in demand for this oral sex act where a woman sits on a man's face, one leg on either side of his head, as he pleasures her with his tongue.
Women's Perspectives on Facesitting
Women on Reddit have shared their enthusiasm for the position. One user stated, 'It's the only way I can get off, I love it so hard.' Another added, 'It's the easiest position for me to have an orgasm.' However, some expressed concerns, with one woman noting, 'Sometimes I get carried away with the “oh my god am I crushing him” thoughts and it takes a moment to get back into the moment.' Another recounted a mishap: 'I nearly broke my husband's nose when I really got into it. Workplace hazard.'
Men's Enthusiasm for Queening
Men also express strong appreciation for the act. One man shared, 'Sometimes we are so horny that we want to experience as much of you as closely as possible, and that is by burying our faces in your treasure chest.' Another described the view: 'Face towards my head. The view of a woman's breasts from below is magnificent. And I can use my hands on the lady.' Men also reassured women about concerns over genital smell, with one stating, 'Men who want this are usually not at all bothered about that… they actually enjoy everything about it.'
Expert Insights on the Appeal
Sex expert Gigi Engle explained to Metro that queening is a great position for achieving female orgasm and engaging in light BDSM through domination. Annabelle Knight, Lovehoney's sex expert, added, 'By sitting on another person's (man or woman) face, you are exerting total control in that situation over them. In addition to the physical aspect, the pleasure or stimulation of facesitting is entirely one-way, which adds to the power dynamic.' She also noted that the position leaves hands free for exploring erogenous zones and flips the traditional porn narrative that focuses on male pleasure.
Historical and Safety Considerations
Annabelle pointed out that instances of cunnilingus and female sexual worship date back to Ancient Rome and the Kama Sutra, with depictions in French paintings from the 1700s and works by 19th-century artists like Félicien Rops. Safety is paramount: Gigi warned, 'You shouldn't fully sit on someone's face, you don't want to suffocate anyone. You should be hovering over their face or sitting back more on their chest but you should communicate during both to see what's most comfortable.' Annabelle stressed the importance of consent and a safe word or action, such as a double hand pat.
Surge in Popularity
The position has seen a notable increase in searches, with Sheffield locals contributing to a 300% search spike, indicating growing interest in the UK. Angie Rowntree, founder of Sssh.com, noted, 'The facesitting they want isn't necessarily BDSM-specific or about serving a “mistress,” but more about expressing adoration of her body and emphasising her pleasure.'
