A 25-year-old pharmacy worker in Nigeria has shared her sex diary, revealing she has not had sex for two years and struggles to orgasm without thinking about her ex. Savannah*, who is single and Catholic, wants a more active sex life but prioritises building a connection before intimacy.
Dating Challenges and Strict Rules
Savannah says most men want casual sex, which she avoids due to her faith and fear of becoming emotionally attached. She also refuses to date men with children or partners, a common issue in her area. Her type is men around a decade older, making dating tricky.
On Thursday, she went on a date with Luca*, a man she met at work who lives part-time in France. Though not her type, she enjoyed lunch and a kiss on the cheek. She doubts it will become long-term as he is leaving soon.
Masturbation and Fantasies
Savannah tried masturbating for the first time months ago but found it underwhelming. She now reads free sex stories online, particularly older male/female fantasies, to get in the mood. She recalls mind-blowing sex with her ex, who was a decade older, and says she cannot climax without thinking of him.
On Saturday, she spent an hour reading stories and touching herself, feeling soaked from memories of her ex using a vibrator on her. She believes she likes a mix of pleasure and pain.
Religious Conflicts and Rejections
On Sunday at church, she prayed for sexual purity until she is ready to commit. She rejected Luca's invitation to his place, calling it a red flag. She often plays the 'mean b**ch' face to ward off men but acknowledges it may not be helpful.
On Tuesday, she had dinner and saw a movie with Luca, but avoided intimacy. He is traveling home and unsure when he will return, leaving the future uncertain.
