Lili Myers, the widow of late Hairy Bikers star Dave Myers, has spoken candidly about navigating life after his death, revealing she still finds herself having arguments with him despite her efforts to move on.
Dave Myers passed away in February 2024 at the age of 66, fewer than two years after receiving a cancer diagnosis. Lili, who met him in Romania in 2005, has been open about life without her husband.
Anger and Arguments
Speaking to The Times, Lili described how anger frequently proves the most accessible feeling when coping with grief, acknowledging she has felt it towards herself, the world and even Dave.
“I was angry at myself for not being able to save him. I was angry at him for leaving me. I was angry at everything,” she said.
She added: “You blame yourself for not doing things, for saying the wrong things. Why did you do this? Why didn't you do that?”
Lili disclosed that she occasionally visits Dave's resting place to voice her frustrations, saying: “I have moments when I'm still angry and I go to Dave's resting place and I lie on the stone and have an argument with him.”
When asked about the subject of their most recent dispute, she explained she was currently trying to secure a mortgage on her own. “So the last time I went, I had a word with him about that,” she said with a laugh.
Letting Go of Belongings
On what would have marked Dave's 69th birthday, Lili put approximately 300 of his belongings up for auction, including his motorcycle leathers, guitars and a silver-plated moustache brush. Some of the proceeds were donated to charity.
For Lili, the choice to relinquish some of his possessions represented more than merely creating space.
“I needed to make a step forward and that meant letting go of some of the objects that he collected,” she explained.
“It was a symbolic moment for me that mourning Dave is coming to an end and living with my love for Dave has started.”
New Chapter and Final Dave's Day
Having received countless messages from grieving fans following Dave's death, Lili has completed 20 grief counselling courses and is now embarking on a new journey helping others. She said: “I've found my place.”
Lili also announced that this year's Dave's Day, which has seen thousands of motorcyclists travel from London to Cumbria in his memory over the previous three summers, would be the final one.
“Dave has to rest now and I have to do the same in my head,” she said.
“People talk about healing. I don't like that word because there is no healing, there's only becoming. We become different people. We've lost our other half and we have to grow from that.”
Dave's longtime friend and Hairy Bikers co-star Si King, who was with Lili when Dave died, has also opened up about his own grief and anger at losing his friend. Lili has leaned on her close circle of friends and family while maintaining contact with King. Her son Sergiu also married in September, with a seat reserved for Dave at the top table in his memory.
