Lili Myers, widow of late Hairy Bikers star Dave Myers, has revealed she still finds herself arguing with her husband as she navigates life without him, and has taken a significant step forward by auctioning around 300 of his belongings.
Dave Myers died in February 2024 at the age of 66, less than two years after being diagnosed with cancer. Lili, who met Dave in Romania in 2005, has spoken candidly about her grief and the emotions that continue to surface.
Anger and Arguments
Speaking to The Times, Lili explained that anger is often the easiest feeling to access when dealing with bereavement, and that she has felt it towards herself, the world, and even Dave.
“I was angry at myself for not being able to save him. I was angry at him for leaving me. I was angry at everything,” she said. She added: “You blame yourself for not doing things, for saying the wrong things. Why did you do this? Why didn’t you do that?”
Lili revealed she sometimes visits Dave's resting place to express her frustrations, saying: “I have moments when I’m still angry and I go to Dave’s resting place and I lie on the stone and have an argument with him.” Asked what their latest disagreement was about, she said she was currently trying to secure a mortgage on her own. “So the last time I went, I had a word with him about that,” she said with a laugh.
Auction and Moving Forward
On what would have been Dave's 69th birthday, Lili put around 300 of his belongings up for auction, including his motorbike leathers, guitars, and a silver-plated moustache brush. Some of the proceeds were donated to charity.
For Lili, the decision to part with some of his possessions represented more than simply clearing space. “I needed to make a step forward and that meant letting go of some of the objects that he collected,” she explained. “It was a symbolic moment for me that mourning Dave is coming to an end and living with my love for Dave has started.”
The decision came as she continued her work supporting other people experiencing bereavement. Having received countless messages from grieving fans since Dave's death, Lili has completed 20 grief counselling courses and is now pursuing a new path helping others. She said: “I’ve found my place.”
Dave's Day Finale
Lili also confirmed this year's Dave's Day, which has seen thousands of bikers travel from London to Cumbria in his honour over the past three summers, would be the last. “Dave has to rest now and I have to do the same in my head,” she said.
“People talk about healing. I don’t like that word because there is no healing, there’s only becoming. We become different people. We’ve lost our other half and we have to grow from that.”
Dave's longtime friend and Hairy Bikers co-star Si King, who was with Lili when Dave died, has also spoken about his own anger at losing his friend. Lili says she has leaned on her close circle of friends and family while remaining in touch with King. Her son Sergiu also married in September, with a seat reserved for Dave at the top table in his memory.
