A reader is being pursued by a man she slept with once, who now believes they are in a relationship. She describes his persistent texts, social media posts, and public advances as overwhelming. After she pushed him away in a pub, he accused her of being heartless, and even her oldest friend thinks she overreacted.
Setting boundaries
Jane O'Gorman advises the reader to clearly tell the man that they are not a couple and that he must stop contacting her. If the harassment continues, she suggests considering reporting him to the police. Jane notes that some people struggle to separate sex from emotional attachment, and advises learning from any promises made in the heat of the moment.
Threesome dilemma
Another reader recounts how his girlfriend agreed to a threesome while drunk but then backed out. He wonders if he should sleep with her friend instead. Jane advises against revenge sex and recommends talking to his girlfriend about their relationship instead of pressuring anyone.
