A man in his 30s is struggling with a dilemma after his wife's close friend attempted to kiss him while they were all drunk. The incident occurred during a pre-holiday gathering, and the man is now dreading the upcoming trip with the other couple.
The Incident
The man and his wife had gone out for drinks with another couple to discuss their upcoming holiday. After getting quite drunk, the other couple came back to their house to stay overnight. While the man's wife and the other husband were in the kitchen making coffee with a new machine, the man was left alone on the sofa with the other woman. She leaned in and tried to kiss him. He immediately moved away and got up just as the other two returned.
The Dilemma
The man is unsure whether the kiss was a drunken mistake or a sign of genuine interest. He loves his wife and would never cheat, but he fears that telling her would cause her to freak out and end the friendship. He also worries about the other husband's reaction. He is considering whether to ignore the incident or say something before the holiday.
Coleen's Advice
Coleen suggests that if the other woman was very drunk, she might be feeling embarrassed and regretful. However, given the upcoming holiday, Coleen advises the man to pull the woman aside before the trip and say something like: "I'm putting what happened the other night down to being very drunk, but just wanted to say it can't happen again because I'm happily married and not interested in anyone else." This should clear the air, even if it's uncomfortable. If it happens again or she indicates she likes him, he must be very clear that it's never going to happen. Coleen also recommends stopping double dates with this couple, though the man can still see the husband for a pint. She warns him to be mindful on holiday and not to be tempted to flirt, even subconsciously.
Coleen's Words of Wisdom
Coleen also offers a tip for reducing stress and improving sleep: organise your day the night before by writing down priorities, so you wake up with a clear plan.
