Daily Star agony aunt Jane O'Gorman tackles readers' problems with straight-talking advice, from bedroom confessions to self-confidence issues and drug use. She has helped thousands of readers over the years and continues to offer guidance on a range of personal concerns.
Readers seeking help can write to Just Jane, Daily Star, One Canada Square, London, E145AP or email jane.ogorman@reachplc.com. Jane cannot respond to individual letters, and not all problems will be published.
Friend's Changed Behaviour
A reader, identifying as 'Major shagger', describes a former close friend who was once a drinker, a flirt, and had relationships with multiple men, including three at once during college. The friend has since changed after getting a new job and boyfriend, becoming stuck-up and prickly.
At a recent meeting, the friend refused a bottle of fizz, ordered water, and left after an hour, refusing to laugh at embarrassing memories from their old workplace. The reader asks if she needs to remind her friend of her past actions.
Jane advises accepting that the friend has grown up and moved on, noting she clearly isn't interested in dwelling on the past. She suggests the friend may have worries and responsibilities, and advises giving her space. Jane warns the reader to be prepared that the friendship could be over.
Concerns Over Children's Meals
Another reader, under 'Bad relationship', reveals her mother never cooked proper meals when she was young, leaving her and her brother to live off biscuits and cereal. The mother would say "Eat an apple" if they complained of hunger.
Now the mother wants to have the reader's children, aged 5 and 7, to stay over at her home, which is over 10 miles away. The reader worries about trusting her mother to feed them properly, given her bad relationship with food.
Jane advises the reader to level with her mother, explaining serious concerns about her ability to take the children's needs seriously. She suggests discussing nutrition education, meal plans, and possibly sending pre-prepared meals. If the mother is incapable of caring for the children to the reader's standard, Jane says the reader must say 'sorry, no' and have the mother visit instead, while still allowing a relationship with the children.
