Daily Star's agony aunt Jane O'Gorman is available daily to help readers with their problems, offering straightforward and practical advice on issues ranging from bedroom confessions to self-confidence and drug use.
Readers seeking help can write to Just Jane, Daily Star, One Canada Square, London, E145AP or email jane.ogorman@reachplc.com. Jane cannot respond to individual letters, and not all problems will be published.
Doubts about girlfriend's motives
A reader who recently enjoyed several windfalls, including an investment benefit, a substantial inheritance, and the sale of one company, questions whether his girlfriend genuinely loves him or is after his money. Despite his success, he struggles with self-confidence and doubts her affection, noting that no girl was interested in him before he had money.
Jane advises him to consider why his girlfriend shouldn't love him, suggesting he suffers from low self-esteem and imposter syndrome. She encourages him to give her credit, appreciate his own qualities, and consider speaking to a medical expert or therapy to address his doubts.
Ex-boss blackmail threat
Another reader, aged 30 and in a five-year relationship, sent explicit pictures to her ex-boss after he flirted with her. He now wants her to leave her partner and start a relationship, threatening to show the pictures around if she refuses. She feels guilty and wants the situation to stop.
Jane urges her to tell the ex-boss the situation ends, ask for the images back, and be prepared to speak to trusted family members and the police if he threatens blackmail. She also advises telling her partner the truth about everything.
Holiday spending and relationship doubts
A reader's girlfriend wants an exotic Christmas holiday, but he is not prepared to go into more debt and is unsure about continuing the relationship after her behaviour during their summer holiday, where she expected him to pay for everything.
Jane advises him to come clean about his feelings, discuss whether she is prepared to apologise and change, and insist on taking expensive holidays off the menu. She questions why she isn't paying her way if they earn equal amounts.
Partner's mistress and moving plans
A reader's partner has a mistress who is a permanent fixture in his life, and he now insists they follow her to another city, saying she can 'clear off' if she doesn't like it.
Jane says this should be the end of the road, telling him to follow his lover if he wants while she picks up her life again. She describes him as selfish and entitled, and says the reader is worth more.
