From 'the ick' to 'love conquers all', experts have identified six toxic dating trends that can sabotage relationships. These myths, often perpetuated by social media and pop culture, may be causing more harm than good, relationship coaches and therapists warn.
One pervasive trend is 'ick culture', where people break up over trivial habits like how a partner runs for a bus. Hope Flynn, a sexual health expert, says this fosters an unrealistic expectation of perfection. Instead, she advises taking a light-hearted view and communicating kindly.
Another myth is that relationships inevitably lose their spark. Intimacy coach Sarah Rose Bright argues this is damaging, as sex lives naturally evolve. She suggests planning intimate time rather than expecting spontaneity, and using past excitement as inspiration rather than a benchmark.
Psychotherapist Charlotte Fox Weber debunks the idea that couples must never go to bed angry. She notes that not all arguments can be resolved immediately, and forcing a resolution can lead to faux reconciliation. It's okay to pause and revisit issues later.
Fighting fairly is key, says therapist Natalie Englander. Using 'I' statements and avoiding insults can prevent arguments from spiraling. Additionally, experts stress that while love is important, it alone cannot sustain a relationship if core needs aren't met.
Finally, the belief that a partner should always be the top priority can be toxic. Fox Weber advises that it's healthy to have other meaningful connections, as long as the relationship is valued. Recognising these myths may help daters build stronger, more realistic partnerships.
