A dominatrix has laid down seven golden rules every client must follow, warning that breaking them could result in severe punishment. Writing for Metro, Melissa Todd, a sex worker and performer, outlined the strict etiquette she expects from those who book her services.
Punctuality and Communication
Punctuality is important, but Todd notes that clients are usually 10 minutes early. She advises against arriving earlier than that, suggesting a nearby café for waiting. Being late is less of an issue, as she says it is the client's own time wasted. However, she strongly discourages bombarding her with messages while en route. 'GO AWAY. I'll see you at the appointed hour and before that I shall ignore you,' she writes, adding that her time is expensive and she has no time to waste.
Avoid Pre-Session Chatter
Todd also warns against endless questions about the session before the appointment. She distinguishes between genuine queries from new clients and pointless preamble to get in the mood. Her pet peeve is the question, 'What are you going to do to me, Miss?' She explains that she cannot determine what a client will enjoy from a distance and will conduct an experiment on their buttocks once they meet. 'Be patient,' she advises.
Another irksome question is 'What won't you do?' Todd says she cannot guess which of the many trillion fetishes might be a client's and urges them to be specific. 'Be brave,' she writes, promising not to be offended.
Hygiene and Payment
When clients arrive, Todd insists they be clean. She has a sensitive nose and mentions the sweaty summer, but a shower is available if needed. She also pleads for proper hygiene: 'please for the love of God learn to wipe your behind.' Payment should be made upon arrival, as she may forget otherwise. She asks clients not to arrive cashless and request a trip to a cash machine, as her neighbours already have plenty to gossip about. Bank transfers are only considered for very expensive appointments.
She also advises clients who bleed after a hard spanking not to sit on her sofa while putting their pants back on, calling that 'just rude.'
Behaviour and Consequences
Todd warns against being bratty in the hope of being hit harder. Instead, she says, 'say please hit me harder.' Criticising her technique or outfit will ensure she never sees the client again, and genuine unpleasantness may cause her to lose her temper. She recounts a time she caned a man so hard he was marked for eight months after he committed multiple sins: turned up early, neglected to pay, asked for a discount halfway through, criticised her blouse, and presented with poor hygiene. 'Not only blocked, but near broken by my fury,' she writes.
She concludes with a warning: 'Don't be my next victim. Or at least, only be the victim we both want you to be.'
