A woman who thought she would never want sex again has described how a simple pep talk reignited her libido and transformed her relationship. Lucia, 52, experienced a dramatic drop in desire five years ago, leaving her feeling guilty and disconnected from her husband Edwin.
Lucia attributed the loss of libido to pandemic stress and perimenopausal hormonal changes. She said: 'I felt guilty because I love him and want to make him happy. I knew sex still needed to happen.' After consulting a doctor, who prescribed a supplement, she realised a mindset shift was key. She began giving herself pep talks in the mirror, saying: 'I am going to have sex and I am going to enjoy it.'
This mental shift led to more adventurous sex, including role-play and fake stories about past encounters. The couple now have sex about three times a week. Edwin, 53, said physical touch is his love language, and while he has a higher libido, he values connection over frequency. He added: 'I’m at a stage where I only fantasise about my wife, which is awesome.'
The couple, together for 26 years, have also introduced a remote-controlled toy into their sex life. Lucia concluded: 'Things change as you get older, but I don’t think that’s a bad thing. Life changes and you just have to adapt.'
