If you have a problem that needs solving and you don't know where to turn, look no further. Every day, the Daily Star's very own agony aunt Jane O'Gorman is on hand to tackle your issues and concerns with some straight-talking but sound advice. From bedroom confessions to self-confidence issues, drug use and everything else, Jane has helped thousands of Daily Star readers over the years and isn't slowing down. If you want help, you can write to Just Jane, Daily Star, One Canada Square, London, E145AP or email jane.ogorman@reachplc.com. Please note that Jane cannot respond to individual letters and not all problems will be published.
Male Replacement
Reader's Problem: I'm sharing a hot man with my best friend. We're in a complicated three-way relationship. He and I sleep together in the week, while my friend gets him at weekends. He says we're both beautiful. Recently I made a mistake. I asked him who was best in bed; me or my mate. With that he launched into an animated speech about how funny, sexy and naughty she is. Eventually he checked himself and said: 'You're fantastic too.' We made love and it was exquisite. I'm insanely jealous that he also beds her. How do I fix this once and for all? Is a 'her or me' ultimatum a good idea?
Jane Says: How can you share yourself with a man knowing that he goes straight from your bed into the arms of another? Unsurprisingly, he's on top of the world. Between you, you give him as much sex and adoration as he can manage, and the guy is in his element. I worry that even if he does dump your friend, then he'll only replace her down the line. Won't you spend your whole time worrying about him going off with someone else? If threeways are his thing then will he ever be happy with simply one woman? Think about it. I fear that the longer you stay in this sticky threesome, the more chance you've got of losing your identity. Your confidence is going to erode, and you'll get used to putting up with second best. Step back and really look at how you're allowing yourself to be treated – then get out. What about your self-respect and your pride?
Kinky Sex
Reader's Problem: Sex with my male friend is wonderful. But some nights he wants me - and others he doesn't. We last slept together about 3 weeks ago and it hasn't happened since. He has a long-term girlfriend who's horrible to him. I need him to be my full-time boyfriend but can't pin him down. I feel like the useful idiot on the side who he turns to when he fancies kinky sex. What should I do or say when I'm scared of frightening him off?
Jane Says: You need to back off and take care of yourself. You and this fella have slept together a few times and now I get the impression that he's either playing games or simply choosing to ignore your needs. I know it's tough but put some distance between yourselves. He has a girlfriend. He is not free. Maybe his relationship with her is complicated but that has nothing to do with you. Spend time with other people so that you can think straight and clear your head. You need to accept that he's not as into you as you are into him. That's disappointing, I know, but you can't allow anyone to use you or mess with your feelings. You're better than this.
He's Boobed
Reader's Problem: The guy I'm obsessed with says I'll need to have a 'substantial' boob job before he'll go on another date with me. He says that he likes the 'Porn Star' look and I fall short in the bra cup stakes. Must I go under the knife when I like him so much and our first (and only date) was a dream?
Jane Says: Do you want bigger breasts? Do YOU want to spend a fortune and go under the knife? If the answer is 'yes' then go for it. But please don't butcher your body for someone else. This bloke has no right to put you under pressure or insult you. If your body is beautiful and healthy then celebrate your uniqueness and be proud.
