An Unexpected Encounter
BJ, a 46-year-old writer and translator from Norwich, and Toby, a 25-year-old postman studying for a master's in environmental assessment and management, met for a meal as part of a series aimed at bridging social divides. BJ expected someone older, while Toby found her friendly and disarming.
The Meal
They dined at Blue Joanna in Norwich, enjoying banana blossom tacos, broccoli, aubergines, padrón peppers, and oyster mushrooms, with bakewell fizz cocktails. Toby ordered calamari, while BJ, a vegan, stuck to plant-based dishes.
Clash Over Gaza
The conversation turned to the conflict in Gaza. Toby described it as a genocide, citing systematic destruction and civilian casualties. BJ disagreed, arguing that the term 'genocide' implies deliberate intent to destroy a group, which she felt was not the case. She believed the Israeli army tried to avoid civilian targets.
Political Views
BJ, a Lib Dem voter who also votes Democrat in the US, expressed concerns about the Green Party's stance on Palestine, fearing it could fuel antisemitism. Toby, who votes Labour and Green, defended the party, saying being pro-Palestine is not antisemitic. He noted BJ agreed with most Green policies but couldn't vote for them due to this issue.
Monarchy and Misunderstandings
A light moment occurred when BJ misheard Toby's question about the monarchy as 'kink,' leading to a discussion on monogamy. Toby, a republican, views the monarchy as the 'best worst option' and would prefer David Attenborough as head of state.
Parting Ways
BJ suggested adding each other on social media, but Toby declined, saying he didn't see them meeting again. BJ took it in stride, noting Norwich is a small city. Toby felt there was a slight professor-student dynamic but they parted on good terms.
