Annie*, a 49-year-old married woman, has been having an affair with Hardeep*, a 33-year-old man, for some time. The pair meet for sex about five times a week, while Annie's husband remains unaware.
How the affair began
Annie met Hardeep by chance at a cash point and felt an instant connection. She gave him her number, knowing they would be more than friends. At the time, she was in early menopause, and her husband, who had 'never been into sex', showed no interest in intimacy.
'Hardeep and I began texting on Whatsapp, initially just polite chitchat and stuff about our daily lives,' she said. 'It was a phase of my life when I was constantly horny and thinking about sex. My husband had also put on three stone and I was starting to feel less attracted to him.'
A week in the affair
Their messages turned saucy, and they agreed to a date, kissing in his car afterwards. Since then, they have been unable to keep their hands off each other.
On Monday, with Hardeep away, they exchanged raunchy messages and masturbated over video. Tuesday, they met at an art gallery and had sex in a disabled toilet. Wednesday, they couldn't meet, but he sent sexy videos. Thursday, they booked a hotel for a few hours. Friday, they met briefly in a café, and Saturday, they drove to the countryside and had sex in the car and in the bushes.
Impact on family life
Annie says she would never leave her husband because it would break her daughter's heart. She does not feel guilty about the affair, as her husband 'simply rejects me and pays no attention to me'. She describes her marriage as 'more like a friendship with no physicality whatsoever'.
On Sunday, she plays the role of a good mother and wife, doing chores and preparing lunch. She says, 'Only few more years and my daughter will go to college, and after that, maybe I’ll finally leave my husband and be alone.'
Annie concludes: 'Being in another real relationship with a man is not what I want. I have already been a wife, carer, mother. I just want to enjoy my body while I’m still in my prime.'
