Naturalist and television presenter Chris Packham has opened up about his relationship with his long-term partner Charlotte, revealing that they live apart due to his neurodiversity. Packham, who is autistic, said he can only offer '100% or 0%' in relationships, which has shaped their unconventional arrangement.
In an interview, Packham explained that his obsessive personality is now better controlled, allowing him not to force his partner into his interests. He admitted that in past relationships, he was unforgiving when partners wanted him to do things he didn't value. Now, he simply refuses to attend events like weddings or coffee with Charlotte's friends, which she accepts.
Charlotte, who is neurotypical, said that for the first three years, Packham did not tell her he was autistic, believing he could mask it. She said knowing his diagnosis has helped her understand his behaviour, though his directness can be 'brutal' at times. She added that she must actively maintain her position in the relationship to avoid losing herself.
The couple, who have been together for 17 years, acknowledge misunderstandings, such as over Charlotte's poor time management. Packham, who is highly organised, said he cannot understand how anyone can be late. Despite challenges, Packham said there is 'no ambiguity' that Charlotte has his back, and she values his honesty for providing security.
