In this week's blind date column, Alex, a 45-year-old product lead in tech, met Ellie, a 35-year-old TV producer, for dinner at Pasta Ripiena in Bristol. Despite the lack of romantic chemistry, both described the evening as enjoyable and respectful.
Alex on Ellie
What were you hoping for? To meet someone kind and have an enjoyable evening with someone I maybe wouldn’t ordinarily choose for myself.
First impressions? Pretty, with great style, loads of personality and a really relaxed energy.
What did you talk about? Work. Travelling. Shared Bristol connections and an unexpected link to a nightclub in Swindon. Her new personal training side hustle. Probably a bit too much about my cycling, in hindsight.
Most awkward moment? I managed to make a bit of a mess with some crackers that were a lot more brittle than I expected.
Good table manners? She had really nice table manners.
Best thing about Ellie? Her smile and infectious laugh.
Would you introduce Ellie to your friends? Absolutely.
Describe Ellie in three words: Warm, easygoing, fun.
What do you think Ellie made of you? I’m not entirely sure. She was very honest at the end and said she didn’t feel romantic chemistry, which I respected. Aside from that, I hope she found me decent company.
Did you go on somewhere? Nope.
And … did you kiss? Only a friendly peck on the cheek.
If you could change one thing about the evening, what would it be? Probably I’d talk a little less. I think I got a bit carried away once the wine kicked in.
Marks out of 10? 7.5.
Would you meet again? I’d definitely meet again as friends. I really enjoyed her company.
Ellie on Alex
What were you hoping for? I try to have not to have too many expectations, but was hoping for good chat, laughter and alfresco dining.
First impressions? We were both nervous and early, but as soon as I met him I was at ease.
What did you talk about? Japan. Our lack of wine knowledge. Favourite fitness things.
Most awkward moment? A piece of food fell out of my mouth as I was talking. But he nearly knocked his wine over, so I think we were even.
Good table manners? Yes. Mine were worse, due to the above.
Best thing about Alex? He has a really welcoming, warm vibe.
Would you introduce Alex to your friends? Yes, but I can’t fully imagine us in each other’s social circles.
Describe Alex in three words: Warm, humble, intelligent.
What do you think Alex made of you? I’m not sure. I think he agreed we had fun, but the attraction wasn’t there.
Did you go on somewhere? No.
And … did you kiss? Only the cheek.
If you could change one thing about the evening, what would it be? Some chemistry might have been nice.
Marks out of 10? 8.
Would you meet again? I don’t think so, but I had a wonderful evening getting to know Alex.
Ellie and Alex ate at Pasta Ripiena in Bristol. Fancy a blind date? Email blind.date@theguardian.com
