The BBC has released a new documentary, Lover, Liar, Predator, detailing the crimes of Aaron Swan, who coerced, abused and raped multiple women over decades. The film follows four women who were victimised as teenagers, highlighting the insidious nature of coercive control and the difficulty of leaving an abuser.
Swan began his pattern of abuse at age 17, targeting Natalie at a party. He pressured her into sex, she became pregnant and they married. He was demeaning and unkind, insulting her looks and subjecting her to violent, unwanted sex for years. In 2009, he moved on to 16-year-old Jenni, grooming her on Facebook. Despite her mother involving the police, who revealed Swan was a registered sex offender, Jenni moved in with him and they married. He raped Jenni's best friend, Shannon, when she stayed over.
Swan then met 18-year-old Robyn at work, and the abuse escalated. He used threats, including suicide and 'making your life a living hell', to prevent his victims from seeking help. It wasn't until 2024 that Swan was convicted of six charges, including rape, domestic abuse and sexual assault, thanks to the women's solidarity. They had become aware of each other and supported one another in reporting him.
Swan's sister enrolled Robyn on a course for women in abusive relationships, which was created by Natalie, Swan's ex-wife. Their combined testimonies led to Swan receiving an Order for Lifelong Restriction, an indeterminate sentence with a minimum of six years, and indefinite registration as a sex offender.
The documentary has been praised for raising awareness about why women stay with abusers. It challenges the question 'Why don't they just leave?' by showing the psychological and practical barriers victims face. The film is a powerful tool for education, with some suggesting it should be shown in every school.
